This is critical! Who is mentoring you?

Our present and long-term health is at stake here. Somewhere along the line, we have gotten the message in our culture that we can manage life alone. The Christian version of this message is “all I need is Jesus!” Let me state this clearly. This is a perversion of truth whose cost is huge.

God never meant for us to walk alone. 

Our present and long-term health is at stake here. Somewhere along the line, we have gotten the message in our culture that we can manage life alone. The Christian version of this message is “all I need is Jesus!” Let me state this clearly. This is a perversion of truth whose cost is huge.

All Christians need to be in mentoring relationships, regardless of age or spiritual maturity. 

Every one of us needs others to walk alongside us. By walking alongside, I mean people with whom we regularly can be honest and vulnerable and people that we give permission to speak truth to us. A spouse can be great, but we need more. We are too adept at hiding. Ruts are too ingrained to rely on our marriage to fill all of our needs for an honest, truth-telling, grace-giving, soul-bearing relationship.

We may not see the need right at the moment. The need may be a few months or years down the road when that crisis arises or struggle surfaces. If the relationship is not already in place it is unlikely that we will be able to create it on the spot. Ecclesiastes puts it this way; “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up” (Eccl. 4:10). Could it be stated any more strongly? Pity the man!

It is never too late to find a mentor. 

The person does not need to be older. It may be a friendship that you transition into a peer mentoring relationship, each mentoring one another through life’s trials. What does this relationship look like?

Think CHIRP

  • C – Confidential – Stated confidentiality is critical. We must know and trust that all communication is one hundred percent confidential.
  • H – Honest – We choose to be honest and vulnerable in this relationship. Otherwise, we are wasting our time.
  • I – Intentional – We meet to expressly walk alongside together.  Other times may present themselves to socialize or “hang out,” but we have this specific time to share life deeply with one another.
  • R – Regular – We meet regularly. Life moves too fast to only meet when we think of it.
  • P – Prayerful – We pray about whom we enter into this kind of relationship with and we pray with and for our mentor.

Time flies. Don’t wait until the storm comes. If you do not have a mentor, look hard for one now. Be bold! So much is at stake. If you do have a mentor, renew your commitment for honest, vulnerable, life-giving relationship. “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands (God and two gathered together in His name) is not quickly broken.” (Eccl 4:12)